Millennials are one of the most controversial groups that ever existed. If you research online about the behaviors, pros, and cons of people my age it is divided into two categories.

1. Lazy and self- entitled
2. The visionary and leaders of tomorrow

Personally, I think every generation has its own share of good and bad, mistakes we can all learn from and good that shapes the next generation in becoming better than the previous one. As human beings, we don’t learn by doing everything right, someone needs to stuff it up for us to learn what NOT to do. So no matter what age group you belong in the eyes of society we all contributed something to the future where we now co- exist. I don’t want to qualify myself and other Millennials to a certain category in this article. My intention is to share a little about my story and a few takeaways that could help young, unmotivated and self- entitled Millennials in getting clarity on what’s being handed to them simply by existing in the greatest era of all time.

I’m 24 years old now and turning 25 in March 2017, I built three international businesses and raised 7 children since I was 14 years old. I didn’t finish high school and was homeless several times. I never once owned a barbie doll most Millennials had in their possession growing up. I had 1 pair of slippers for 3 years in Elementary that I literally grown out but still wore it for the sake of not walking around barefoot. I had no parents to rely on but myself. It may sound like a horror movie for most people but for me, it was the greatest gift life has ever given me. I was given the opportunity to live with almost nothing, to have no one and survived with nothing but my grit and perseverance to thrive out of the rot has always been my advantage in life.

Millennials are on a voracious quest for instant gratification with almost everything about their life. We got so many participation trophies growing up that a recent study showed that 40% believe they should be promoted every two years, regardless of performance. Everything has to be instant in our world, we grew up using calculators instead of our brain, we shape and control a huge portion of the world’s economy. I could go on for hours but my point is; as the most influential people of today, we have to start realizing that we are here to CONTRIBUTE something not just taking something. The world doesn’t owe you anything just because you think you deserve it, you had it rough growing up or whatever else it may be. You were given a life to live, learn and grow. It was not given to you to demand more- that is purely selfish and self- centered.

So my encouragement to you is, shift your focus away from what you want and get deeply, intensely curious about what the world needs. Ask yourself what you have the potential to offer that is so unique and compelling and helpful that no computer could replace you, no one could outsource you. Invest your time traveling and helping other people. I guarantee, once you do that you will ask less and give more.

Often what we have is ten times more than what other people have on the other side of the world we just don’t realize it because we do not understand nor seen the struggles of other people. It’s like asking someone how does sugar taste if they never tasted it. You must go out and experience the moment to have a better understanding of what life really is. Don’t wait till you turn a certain age to decide, grow and learn, remember that only dead fish go with the flow. So let’s choose #2.

Below are practical tips and tools I personally used to live a life free of ENTITLEMENT.

1. Your parents is NOT responsible for your education, life and success. They have already given you a gift you can never repay and that is the thing we call life. Go out and experience it.

2. Stop complaining and wishing for a better job, better life and better relationship. Make a decision that you alone is responsible for every area of your life. No one else. Period.

3. If you don’t have what you want that’s because you didn’t work for it. Stop asking for something and start earning it. Your boss doesn’t owe you a pay rise and the government doesn’t owe you a job.

4. Start saving 20% of your salary and invest it on things that contribute to your growth, for example; travel the world and paying for personal development seminars and courses or upgrading your skill set. There’s a lot of affordable courses online nowadays, you can start learning to expand your knowledge on areas you might want to pursue. One great resource is Udemy where you can learn various skillset on different industries for as low as $24 per course. I myself learned how to code HTML for $50 and built my first fashion eCommerce business www.ohmagosh.com 4 years ago and has now sold products to over 16 countries worldwide.

5. Stop blowing your money on booze every weekend and start evaluating the people in your proximity. People are energy, habits, and mirrors. They have the power to either raise your standards or lower it. Make sure you surround yourself with people that are not only there through thick and thin but people that also adds value to your emotional and mental growth.

6. And last but not the least, the world doesn’t throw a billion dollars at a person because the person wants it or work so hard they feel they deserve it. The world does not care what you want or deserve. The world gives you money in exchange for something it perceives to be of equal or greater value: something that transforms an aspect of the culture, introduces a new one, or alters the way people think and make use of it in daily life.Opinions expressed here by Contributors are their own.

Hershey is a Founder of 2 International businesses and the CEO of 8TASKS; a high- level offshore outsourcing company redesigning how people use their time. She is also on the Top 5 Women2Watch in 2017 and part of our 30 under 30 lists for 2016.

She is also a business mentor, a life coach, and a digital storyteller. Currently traveling around the world running her workshops educating and speaking on entrepreneurial events and teaching other millennial entrepreneur how to build a business around their passion and purpose in life. Follow her journey on Instagram @hershey_official.