Hitch was a great movie wasn’t it? A man coaching other men on how to become more confident and attract their dream partner. If only there was someone like that in real life so we could kick the mindless left/right swiping of dating apps to the curb. Well, as it turns out, there are in fact many real life Hitches. As dating and building relationships play an enormous part of all of our lives, many of those who remain single are driven by this natural human desire to find the right person to spend the rest of their lives with.
Tackling the dating world though can be overwhelming, to say the least. Whether it be for a lack of confidence, lack of certainty or simply a lack of direction, there are countless people who just can’t seem to find their match. Thankfully, if you want to take your dating and love life to the next level, you can now heed the guidance of an expert. With her own unique area of expertise, I caught up with Dating and Relationship Coach Ellie Erickson, to learn more about this fascinating phenomenon.
Lewis: Thanks again for taking the time to do this with me. First things first – I am sure our readers would love to learn more about you. Tell me a little about your backstory?
Ellie: Thanks for having me, I’m a huge fan of Influencive! I grew up in California and went to college for Experience Industry Management. After school I moved to Florida to work for Disney, but decided after about a year that I wanted an adventure. So I moved to Maui and have been here for a couple years now!
Lewis: Just like the readers I am very curious – can you explain a little more about exactly what you do?
Ellie: So I am actually a dating coach! I help women in their love life enjoy dating, meet incredible potential partners, and get into healthy, stable, enriching, and hugely fun relationships.
Lewis: What made you want to get into coaching? Do you have any advice for others on how to make that leap?
Ellie: I always had a passion for helping others and a gift of being very observant as well as an awesome problem solver- those things together make a pretty powerful coach. I knew I could help others get into the relationship they were looking for (some of them spending years doing so), and so I started creating content around dating and relationships. I had some requests to work with me, and so I started coaching!
My best advice for anyone else looking to make that leap would simply be to start. It’s easy to put it off because “Who are YOU to be coaching”, or you think you need to learn more, but in five years (or even one), you’ll be so glad you started when you did.
Lewis: What are the key steps you have taken to grow your business? What advice do you have for others on how to take their businesses to the next level?
Ellie: For me, hiring a coach who knows more is always crucial. You don’t know what you don’t know, and someone who has done what you want to do is the best investment you can make. I’m also big on growing my community and making sure I am providing value, because that’s what I have found drives people to want to work with me.
Lewis: Can you share the funniest or most interesting story that happened to you since you started as a coach?
Ellie: I don’t know whether this is more funny or interesting- but I will have people come out of nowhere and tell me VERY private details about their life in my Instagram DM’s. Obviously I am honored that people feel comfortable enough to send a private message to a stranger to ask for guidance… and I am sometimes shocked at the detail they go into! About their sex life (or lack their of), about the lengths they went to find out information about the person they’re dating, about their relationship (and affairs) – it’s wild!
Lewis: What are other strategies and tactics of value would you recommend to fellow entrepreneurs and coaches?
Ellie: I’m always learning and I think that’s one of my strengths. Once you think you know everything, that’s when you’re in trouble. I ask questions to anyone and everyone because I know that you can learn something from each person you encounter. Someone might be awesome at graphics, another at sales. People in coaching are oftentimes the type of people who love to help people, and will give you great tips and recommend other resources as well. All you have to do is ask!
Lewis: In one sentence, what’s the best advice you’d give to someone just starting out on their coaching journey?
Ellie:Stop comparing yourself to others (most of whom have been doing this longer than you), because that will end your business before it even begins.
Thanks so much for doing this with me, wishing you all the best!
If you want to learn more about Ellie & her work, follow her on Instagram.